Phillip Agnew of The Dream Defenders. The Dream Defenders is a human rights organization that’s building leadership and power among young people of colour to challenge racism in their communities.Phillip Agnew on All In



it’s truly amazing how some white women get so threatened when a black woman is shining. 

y’all say male egos are weak, but let’s try the ego of a white woman when a black woman is garnering a lot of positive attention. 

watch how suddenly they want the rules to change. gone is the solidarity that a woman’s body is her own, oh no, not for black women. now she needs to cover up and speak less.





Carefully notice the lack of logical thinking here. She’s not even following the line of questioning.

When privilege is in question, no matter how ignorant or intelligent a person is, they tend to retreat to illogical arguments that are easily refuted and they kinda resemble toddlers, except I actually like toddlers and toddlers make more sense.

And honestly, many White women would not tolerate such ridiculous arguments, lack of empathy and self-centeredness ("why bring up race if it’s not a problem for you?") if the question was gender and a White man posed this foolishness to them. They wouldn’t tolerate it. They would easily expose the ignorance. But magically when privilege (in this case White privilege) is in question, all bets are off.

The last GIF explains my life in so many ways… *rolls eyes*

The weirdest thing is that though this is from a satirical show (The Daily Show) and meant to discuss racism with humor, these are the real answers that most Whites give daily, so I couldn’t really laugh this time. I just felt tired.

the perils of trying to communicate this to white people in debates. in the many debates I’ve had the chance of witnessing, race comes up about 80% of the time, when discussing this in a diverse setting. and for whites, sometimes their mindset is ‘oh, why are they pulling the race card.’ but for blacks it’s, ‘understand that purely based off of what I look like, I will experience something totally different, give me the chance to explain.’

this always makes me cringe

(Source: sandandglass)




My goal in life is to make a nigga feel the way Terrance Howard was feeling when Beyonce was giving him a lap dance 

















I don’t give a shit how much $$$ a man has, my dignity will NEVER be swayed by money.

Do NOT disrespect me and then expect to “buy” me back.

Did any of you guys consider that maybe Kimmy didn’t read those posts and didn’t know that he was an abuser before she hung out with him? I certainly didn’t. All I can add is what I saw with my own two eyes.

And to those thinking that she did it for the “coins…” This isn’t true. Kimmy paid for my expensive taxi with her own money. She bought drinks with her own money. The only thing he bought us was dinner. There was no exchange of “coins.”

When we had dinner with him, he was completely respectful and very nice. We laughed and had a good time. I came out with the impression that he was a good person. 

All I can say is there are always two sides to the story. It’s easy to lie, exaggerate and deceive on the internet. You never know what you will get.

I know many of you are not willing to digest this and will write this off… but I’ve heard his side of the story. I took time to seek out another version/perspective. Although I cannot completely defend him, there are more factors than just the ones we see on Tumblr.

I will say this. Attacking each other and defaming each other’s characters does nothing. In fact, we are taking steps backwards. Instead of calling each other gold diggers and such, why not say something constructive… give people the benefit of the doubt. (If) You assumed that she knew about that post before meeting him. (If) You assumed he was paying her. (If) You all assumed she knew she was meeting with a rapist/sadist.

Kimmy did not rape anyone. She did not attack anyone. Why is she taking the heat for this? Isn’t your anger misplaced?

Yes, I will get a lot of backlash for this but sometimes y’all forget that there is a person behind the keyboard that actually gets hurt by the words that are said here. She’s been harassed countless times on Tumblr, and I do not think that is fair. You all want to be seen as mature, intelligent adults but you cower behind your screen and write hurtful things instead of constructive ones. You want to build a community that supports all women, but tear one down in the process. 

And please… stop stirring up drama to get more followers.

I agree with thevirginlifestyle, and this is the internet- you can’t believe everything you read and you don’t always know the whole story. I don’t know sugarnursekimmy personally, but she has always seemed very kind and she definitely doesn’t deserve all the hate she is getting. We need support in this community not hate.

HAVENT READ ABOVE BUT WHY THE F IS THERE SO MANY NOTES TO CAUSE STUPID DRAMA? LOLLLLLLLLLLLLL take a chill pill and sit your ass down. I absolutely adore Kimmy, and believe she is the definition of what truly success is when you hustle your ass off for a while.

Honestly some of you girls need a reality check, you are literally scrapping butt change, when you can be hustling 100x harder if your ass wasn’t perched on tumblr all day to cause drama. Seriosuly, get out of the house and do something productive whether it’s in your vanilla or sugaring life — figure it the fuck out, that there is more to life than your online presence in a board where it is public and everybody can read it. Do you know how utterly stupid and immature you sound? 

Honestly, I agree with what virginsb is saying, however where I draw the line now is: Nobody needs to be friends. Nobody needs to help each other out. But if your not going to, and don’t want to — then shut your mouth about causing shit. Your ratchet af. Those that want SB friends, advice, mentors, or whatever else… I hope you find it! You can definitely meet some awesome girls, and just honestly read through some people’s blogs if they are constantly starting shit — remember your high school years. Those are the girls that judge their success by trying to put another one’s down and ultimately, don’t move forward. So pick and choose wisely as you choose your SD’s… you need a hella elimination process in this bitch because some people on here are just out of control.

RIP to the old community… and a praise to my lovely girlfriends I met on here, and still have to meet. I am careful who I give my attention to, and so should you.

XOXO love the fucking best,


Clearly, you have no clue what you are talking about, as usual. Majority of the girls responding are FAR from scrapping butt change, nor are they going on 50/11 POT dates like you. Being one of the ladies who voiced her opinion, have you know, before I stopped posting on here, my typical money shots ranged from 3k to 10k, as well as, I am currently continuing to pull in the latter as we speak. I’m not some sugar baby without a clue, yet, the spoiled girlfriend of a VP, Real Estate Mogul, and Actor. All have been long term relationships and I blogged about in the past. MANY girls are familiar with my journey and all I have accomplished. As far as getting out of the house and doing something productive, you can browse my instagram and see traveling the world is what I do when I get out of the house. So clearly, my life goes far beyond tumblr. 

Now, DO YOU KNOW HOW IMMATURE YOU SOUND? You clearly jumped into this exchange without knowing a thing about the people involved. Most of the girls responding ARE the old community, hence all of the concern. These girls are not haters, nor are they using drama to get more followers. Their blogs aren’t gimmicks. They are simply voicing their opinions on a shitty situation. That does not make them a hater nor jealous. From my personal success, it makes no sense for me to be jealous of Kimmy. Like, it seriously doesn’t. I’m only calling out the BS I noticed.

And it’s sad that you girls really believe Kimmy did not know. Especially when she was talking to Jirwen for MONTHS, according to thevirginlifestyle. Let’s not pretend that Jirwen wasn’t trolling the bowl on numerous occasions and always butting into situations with unwanted commentary. Not the mention, his interactions with Kimmy definitely would have been around the time he was publicly known to be involved with another SB….. since they have been talking for months! If Kimmy and Jirwen have been buddies for months, I’m certain she followed him and visited his page on occasion to read the filth he wrote.

Not buying it!!

 -And if blogging about my disappoint in a well known SB interacting with a stalker and rapist is considered immature and stupid, than so be it.